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3 tips on breaking the divorce news to the children

One of the hardest aspects of divorce is informing the kids. You and your partner might no longer be romantically involved and have been trying to keep up appearances. You may face more challenges when it is time to establish custody, child support, alimony and other issues involving children and their well-being if you wait too long tell them or they find out from someone else.

There is no right or wrong way to bring up the topic of divorce to kids. Here are a few pointers to help you break the divorce news to children.

Take into consideration their ages

The age of your kids is a major factor in determining your approach. Regardless of their age, break the news gently as a team. It is crucial for you and your partner to show and act as a unit to prevent further misunderstandings. Your marriage is over, but your parenting responsibilities are not. Your children need to understand that both of their parents are still going to do everything possible to make the transition less stressful and impactful in their lives.

Do not lie

As much as you may want to shield your children, it is essential for you to be honest with them. They do not need to know every personal detail of why their parents are splitting up. You should provide them with enough information to help them understand that Mommy and Daddy still love them but will not live in the same household and remain married. Remember to provide them with details about any changes that affect them and answer their questions and concerns.

Consider professional counseling

Counseling may seem like an additional divorce expense that you should avoid, but children do not always internalize unpleasant news well. Counseling can help your kids develop healthy coping mechanisms and express their feelings adequately to prevent behavioral issues and misunderstandings.